Intimidating looking guy
Eventually, we figure it out and get our stuff together, but do guys want to date a girl who has a good job and who has some life goals and is following her dreams? As it turns out, yes, it can be intimidating for some guys.
"When a woman really has her [stuff] together it intimidates me and makes me feel like she would not want a relationship with me because I feel I do not have my [stuff] together in comparison." As this guy shared on Reddit, some guys get insecure about dating a girl who seems to be doing better in life than they are.
But it makes sense that some guys worry about opening up their hearts and having them broken and they might not even want to begin a relationship with someone because of that.
Being single doesn't mean that we have boring lives and nothing to do. Maybe we do enjoy hanging out at home a lot and watching TV or movies, but we have friendships that we keep up, we have families, and we have careers.
They might be thinking too far ahead and figuring that being a boyfriend means being only a short time away from being a husband and they don't know if they're ready for marriage.
We can probably all agree that this involves way too much overthinking, but both guys and girls tend to do that when it comes to dating. Even if we want to be the nicest people ever, we can't help but make comparisons and judgment calls.
As this guy said on Reddit, falling for a girl and having true feelings for her is intimidating.
"When I form an emotional connection and she has the power to rip out my heart and leave me questioning my self-worth and ability to be happy again." No one wants to enter a relationship assuming that it'll fail and we'll be single once again, and it's always worth being with someone and taking the risk.
Maybe they don't want the responsibility, or they wonder if they can handle it, or they want to focus on other things.This might be something that is particularly on our minds if we go on date after date and don't seem to be getting anywhere.And we know that we're pretty awesome, so it can't be us.By now we might be sick and tired of hearing that guys don't want to commit.We might not really believe this since even if we're single, we might have guy friends with girlfriends or best friends with boyfriends or a brother who is married.