Rules for dating your coworker

• If you guys want to keep dating, then you'll talk about what to do about your jobs.

Some new couples say, "We'll both keep our jobs through a certain date [say, the end of the year] and at that point we'll decide which one of us will job-hunt." If you keep working together, take care not to be obnoxious about your relationship.

You can date a co-worker, but you have to use your head. That is an iron-clad rule in any company that values its Team Mojo and doesn't want to get hit with a sexual harassment claim.

Beyond that, some companies have policies about co-workers dating and others don't.

Keep your romance to yourselves and remember that life is long.

If Alyssa is the woman for you and you are the guy for her your relationship will weather these minor inconveniences.

You can do your own digging by jokingly saying, "Everyone thinks we're seeing each other, ha-ha. " If he casts a wide grin or seems into the idea, the coast is clear to start flirting and see what happens.

Just say "I wanted to let you know Brad and I are dating."If it turns out to be a two-week fling, nobody needs to know about it," says Helaine Olen, coauthor of Office Mate. Olen says coworkers often guess something is going on when one person mentions the other too frequently. John helped with the graphics" or "Where'd you go for lunch?Oh, John loves that place." But if you were chummy before, don't ignore him now — that draws more attention than the occasional friendly moments does. For a thousand years the conventional wisdom has been "Never date a co-worker! We spend a tremendous amount of our time at work these days. However it is pretty obvious that both of us would be happy to be  more than friends. As a fairly new employee I didn't want to create any ripples by dating a co-worker until I checked out the situation with you.

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