Single dad dating after divorce
But, I know a lot of single dads, and I can honestly say, being a single dad doesn’t seem like any big picnic. So, I want to validate the single dad and tell him how much the single mom really appreciates him, whether she admits it or not. By the way, disclaimer: these are not true in every case, just generalizations from what I’ve seen. Single dads are often inexperienced to multi-tasking. it’s easier a lot of the time for the kids just to stay at “mom’s.” Therefore, the single dad has a lot less nights where he can kiss his kids good-night. By the time he got the email, he was unable to attend because he had already booked a work appointment at that time.
Some men I know are smart, caring, loving, wonderful dads.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.
In a first date you are trying to make an impression.
♦◊♦ As a divorced dad I am just now entering in a new dating relationship with a woman who does not have kids. We have already had moments of “oh shit, your kids are there, I’m sorry …” and “don’t worry about the kids, they are in their rooms studying.” If I try to imagine her point of view I’d be projecting, so I’ll stick with mine.
As a divorced dad I do understand that my kids are a priority. But kids can be used as an unhealthy defense mechanism as well.
Married couples face the same challenge, and the balance between these two desires of mine is more about respect and courtesy than it is about being divorced or not.
My goal then, is to keep all requests out of crisis-mode.
And keep all boundary discussions about us and not the kids.
Kids might trump our plans, but I am always willing to talk about it.
And I am perfectly capable to make decisions based on a requests and a crisis in the moment.